jeles...or desperate?

Semenjak CikSecretary mendirikan rumahtangga (cewahhh...serius tu bunyinya...), maka my pesbuk wall telah dipenuhi dengan kuiz2 kawin, status2 & komen2 berbau dengki and jeles oleh BiniBos (ie 'bini' kepada BosTua).  Her comments clearly shows how desperate she is; i think orang yang takde kena mengena pun can easily smell her jealousy. 



Kalau baca komen2 dia tu patutnya i rasa rendah diri or seharusnya panik sebab dia yang about twelve years younger than me dah panik2 sebab tak kawin.  mmm...what can i say?  You choose samada nak panik and make the big fuss yourself; or...relax and stay calm and look into the bright side of it.  Alhamdulillah, i have never (yet), so far, felt stressful atau panik tak tentu hala because of my single status.  I sometimes wonder if i'm the one yang tak berapa normal; but, looking at every angle of this issue, i think i'd rather take my own sweet time and not pressure (or torture) myself just to satisfy others perception towards me.



BiniBos purposely bought something...errr...shall i say cheap? and for me adalah agak memalukan to give such present to someone on behalf of the company.  I'm not being materialistic whatsoever, but her actions, comments and words clearly shows her immaturity and eagerness to kawin.  Her comments seems to be lebih menjurus ke arah2...mmm...how should i say this? (...maklum la, i ni kan pemalu; tak reti nak sebut2 benda2 gini..;p *batting eyelashes*) well, ayat2 dia agak tak sopan la kalau nak di tepek kat wall pesbuk tu...hahh...kan senang.  Alahai....kesian sungguh.  Kenapa la kena dengki kat orang yang kawin...i wish i could tell her that; tapikan, i'm positively sure that kata2 tu akan mengundang jelingan maut plus ....'elehhh...sendiri pun tak kawin...' dengan mulut yang menjuih...hmmm.



If anyone could give me reasons kenapa perlunya rasa jeles kat orang yang kawin, please do.  Ini bukan sebab2 kenapa tak perlu kawin tau...cuma sebab2 kenapa kita tak perlu jeles pada orang yang kawin...don't get me wrong here..;p

satu  :  don't we all believe in qada & qadar?  It's written; and kalau ada jodoh kita, sooner or later ada la (in my case would be much, much, much later....or maybe takde langsung? ...hahha)

dua  :  i believe we should have valid reason in every single thing we plan to do.  Nak masak...sebab, nak makan; nak beli kereta...sebab senang nak berpoya2; nak kawin....sebab?? and that sebab to kawin must be thoroughly thought through (mmm...ada dak ayat gini ni...?).  Kalau agak2 sebab2 kita tu tak berapa nak kukuh lagi, so just keep on thinking, think and think... (hmmm...i can write a whole entry on this just one point..)

tiga  :  unless orang yang kawin tu your bf, then there's nothing to be jealous about.  Sebab, if they are happy, doesn't mean that kalau u yang kawin dengan laki tu, u'll be as happy as them.  If that's your bf, then lupakan je la, no point berebut orang yang sama unless u plan to be the second, third or fourth wife.

empat  :  should u feel panic sebab umur dah makin meningkat...well, memang la kita makin tua, but apa la gunanya nak kalut2 and push yourself too hard; main sapu je mamat/minah mana yang lalu depan mata; lepas satu, satu relationship tak berenti2 (ewahhh...macam mengutuk sapa ni...?).  The point is, bagi la tempoh bertenang kat diri sendiri and think wisely betul ke u nak kawin dengan dia and not just because everyone else sekeliling dah kawin maka u pun dengan kalutnya sauk je sapa2.

lima  :  apa nak jeles; u have your own bed to yourself.  Idak le bergolek ke tepi berlaga dengan orang lain kannn.  Tu tak termasuk lagi kena buat benda2 double; cam basuh pinggan, sudu, baju, lipat kain...

enam  :  apa2 pun, sila la refer to point satu. 



If only BiniBos would understand that being married is not the only way/reason to be happy, secure and loved; then she'd not feel intimidated and jealous.  Alaaa...apa nak jeles2 lak...dia kan dah ada 'laki'...